Things they don’t teach you at antenatal classes
I’d love to run courses/write a book/scream from the rooftops about what happens when you have a baby, ie The Truth that no one really tells you. And I realise why no one tells you these things – who wants to hear about sleep deprivation, hours of angst, and weird body changes when you’re just picturing baby bliss? In fact, I’m sure some people tried to tell me that things would change and that I’d lose sleep, but I used to just roll my eyes in that “whatever” way.
So if I were to compile a little list of major changes once you have a baby, that no one tells you about, it would look something like this…
– Your sleep suffers
– You sometimes think you’re the worst mom in the world
– Your body never really goes back to its original shape or form
– Your marriage is tested
– Your self-esteem is challenged
– You battle to figure out your identity (mom/wife/woman/worker/person)
– Your time is challenged
– Your stress levels shoot up
– You question yourself and what you’re doing over and over again
– You cry. A lot.
What my list would also say, is the following:
– You will love in an enormous way.
– You’ll be prepared to do anything for your child
– Seeing your child in a happy moment or space makes your life meaningful, and pretty much rocks your world
– Your child will pretty much make up for all the crappy moments and people out there
So while it might have helped to know that things would sometimes be shaky, and that I’d have permanent dark rings under my eyes, the love is everything. Absolutely everything. And that’s an important message worth shouting from the rooftops.
Thank you for it.